Today I would like to apologize to all the mamas I judged BEFORE I became a mama myself. I used to be one of those people who would side eye a mom and think to myself “wow. I will never do that when I have a baby”. I know I know… I am NOT proud of myself.
When it came to raising kids, for some odd reason I thought I knew it all. My baby would NEVER watch T.V., she would ONLY eat home cooked meals, she would have LIMITED packaged foods, and phones would ALWAYS be at least 3ft away… I should have gone ahead and said ‘she would ALWAYS poop rainbow sparkles’ because that’s how unrealistic I was being. (By the way, as I type this, Aria is watching Barney and snacking on Cheerios…no shame)
What made me come to my senses? One day I was alone at home with Aria, I really had to use the bathroom and she would not let me put her down for even a second. I turned the T.V. on, which instantly grabbed her attention. I went to the bathroom as quickly as I could, and when I came out Aria was sitting in the same position I left her in. It’s safe to say that in recent days Barney is as much my friend as he is Aria’s. He helps me cut her nails and put her hair in a ponytail. He lets me take two slow sips of my coffee, and of course run to the bathroom in desperate situations.
So far, everything I ever judged any mama for before, Aria does it all now. Watching T.V.? Check (her favourite right now is Mother Goose Club Playhouse). Eating packaged snacks? Check (cheerios over anything). Playing with my phone? Check (I swear, I just need her to stay still for TWO MINUTES while I change her diaper!!) Do I feel like a failure for letting her do these things? Honestly? Nope! I just feel like failure for judging all those amazing moms before.
Everything in moderation my friends, that’s the lesson I have learned and of course to not judge anybody for the decisions they make. I mean who am I to judge anyway?!
Although I used specific examples for the purpose of this article, moms are judged for each and every decision they make every single day. None of us are perfect, if you catch yourself questioning another mom, strike up a conversation, I’m 99% sure that once you hear her story you will understand her decision. If you ever feel like you’re being judged on your parenting skills… look at your baby…are they happy? Are they healthy? Yes? Then YOU are doing a great job, and you don’t need anybody to tell you that!
What are some things you do as a mom that you never thought you would? Leave a comment down below, I’d love to hear!
Hugs and Kisses to all!